Meet BostonSass From the Beginning

“It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have love at all.”

How many times have you heard that and thought, “ugh, shut up”? Of course, you can argue both sides of it. Yes, you learn from every relationship you’re in; but whether or not you need to go through so many horrible experiences to learn your lesson is always up for debate.

However, there are some things you get out of relationships that you just can’t find anywhere else.

Almost exactly 3 years ago, my ex-boyfriend was transferring to a college in Boston, at the same time I was moving there. When he came to my apartment after his orientation and meeting his future hockey team, he said to me “Lily, I met your new best friend.” Ok, whatever you say, I thought to myself. He elaborated, “her boyfriend is captain of the hockey team. They're just like us and we’re going to have so much fun hanging out with them.” Why did he think I would get along with her so well? Because she was wearing Victoria’s Secret sweatpants that said “Pink” on the butt. Right, that’s usually my first requirement in a friend. But I humored him and promised the 4 of us could go on a double date.

That summer, the ex played hockey in a summer league and I finally got to meet Joe's girlfriend, Ashley. We hit it off immediately and spent the entire game chatting and forgetting to watch our boyfriends on the ice. That fall brought more of the same as Ashley and I traveled to all the hockey games together. Before long, we were hanging out outside of hockey games, going to lunch on Newbury St. and shopping at Copley.

Our boyfriends drifted apart and decided they didn’t like each other very much anymore, but Ashley and I stayed close. Eventually she broke up with Joe and I supported her throughout the hard decision and took her out shopping and partying in the city in an effort to forget him. She did the exact same thing for me when the ex and I broke up.

Now Ashley and I are closer than ever. Neither of us talk to our exes. And they don’t talk to each other. But Ashley and I spend endless amounts of time together and I consider her one of my best friends.

We both agree that we would go through the entire relationships with our exes again if it meant meeting each other. It was more than worth it. Since our break ups with the exes, the two of us have had many, many more experiences. So many that we decided we wanted to share them. Because let's face it, dating is tough. So is being in a relationship. And there's no better way to figure everything out than to share your stories with someone else. If you're lucky, you have a best friend who's just a martini or a phone call away. But no matter what, you're never alone; there are a whole lot of us 20-somethings out there, just trying to find our way in life and love.

I will always be thankful to my ex for knowing how much I love ”Pink” sweatpants and introducing me to my “new best friend.” I loved and lost, but in the process, I gained something much more important.

So, join us as we meet men, go on dates, share the lessons we've learned, and just have fun as 20-something girls in the city. And remember...all it takes is a little sass. And maybe a couple martinis.

*Lily*