Staying Friends

Note: Just to make everything a little easier, I'm going to call my Ex "Patrick".

One thing I was always thankful for was how much I got along with my Patrick's friends. In particular, his closest friends who live in Boston. They have liked me since Day One, have always been super nice, and told Patrick how fond they were of me and how lucky he was to have a girl like me. This seems quite uncommon, as many times, girlfriends see boyfriend's friends as threats, and vica versa. On quite a few occasions (as strange as it may seem), Patrick's friends and I got together without him around. Whether it was because coincidentally his best friend lived very close to me, or Patrick backed out of a commitment where we were all to hang out, I developed a bond between the two of them; a friendship that really had nothing to do with Patrick.

So, when he and I broke up, I was nervous. I really liked his friends, but was it OK for me to still be friends with them? Would they be OK being friends with me? And, if I were to remain friends with them, would it be difficult... like, would it be a setback to me? Funny, because within no time, they were both texting/calling/IMing me, wanting to hang out. While my friends, well... they'd want nothing to do with Patrick.

The three of us went out to watch the Celtics game a few nights ago, and to be quite honest, it was great. While- YES... it was a little strange hanging out with them without Patrick, we spent the entire night watching the Celtics, talking about life, and frankly- me venting about Patrick. Perhaps that wasn't the best thing for me to have done, but they were seriously understanding, supportive, and able to shed light on the entire situation. A good light, that only reiterated that I've made the right decision.

I'm quite sure that they aren't going to tell Patrick that we didn't hang out. As bad as it sounds, I wish they would tell him! He'd only realize what he so badly messed up.

*Ashley*